Tuesday, January 8, 2008
lots and lots of thinking
sometimes i wonder: is it really good to talk to someone about personal things which are on your mind? i mean, confiding in someone, will help you to speak out your mind, probably have another perception presented to you, all the while, for you to keep ur feelings in check, and calming yourself down. but yet again, it gives the other person a certain impression, and imprint a mindset on that person. Not a very positive way, since u never know what that person thinks, or what he might tell others. But then again, u trust your friends. Speaking out is a good way? or not? hmmm..
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Hey Buddy,
Friends are supposed to be there for you to lean on wherever and whenever the need arises. Of course not all friends are true but hey! you've got pdus, edwin and me. You're not alone! Feel free to speak your mind! Whenever we meet, we always had great time sharing about each other's life. You are not excluded in having that privilege.
Always ready to listen to ya,
Benny
Like I mentioned, we want to present the best to others. We tend to show our stronger facade, and attempt to hide our weaker counterpart at all costs.
Then again, it's only when we dare to let go of our inhibitions then we will start building bridges amidst relationships. And it is only after that when relationships progress to another level.
I don't think it's weak to show what's worrying you or weak when confiding in another person. It sure takes a lot of effort and courage to talk. But I understand your concerns.
There are two scenarios which I think can be fatal (fatal may be too harsh a word, perhaps dangerous): (1) Bottling everything up: it helps because no one will be able to judge you, if that's what concerning you. The after effects are fatal because you start to conjure impressions of what others may think of you. It's an endless loop, and no amount of prozac can help you recover.
(2) I think this is equally bad, if not worse. You attempt to talk to others but no one's actually listening (listen with your heart that is). In fact, I was a frequent victim of scenario two. There were times when I was all ready to share but no one's there to listen. You sense that they are patronizing because they are half interested.
We know that sometimes we need someone to talk to. Perhaps we are not seeking for solutions, but the company does help.
To wrap things up, you need no go all around sharing all your sensitivities. Take baby steps in confiding in your friends (see you have already gotten three of them, at least) and next, be the confidant when someone needs you.
thanx Raynor, Benny =)
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